Thursday, November 19, 2015

Love

First of all, sorry for the long silence from me. Although I'm sure you all understand and aren't at all upset. I needed some time to get away and wallow and not have to think about anything, so the blog got a little neglected. I'm back though, if only sporadically.

Over the past five and a half years, we have been through a lot. We have had four losses, dealt with health issues, infertility and consequently fertility treatments, my Dad passed away, we've moved a few times, we got a dog, raised some chickens and traveled. There have been good times and there have been down right miserable times. There has been a lot of grief. Gosh there's been a lot of grief.

One thing I have learned though, is that we are incredibly blessed by an amazing support system. Through all the stuff we have gone through these past few years, we have felt such an outpouring of love from friends and family and even strangers. Love is bigger than grief.

These past few weeks have shown that to us yet again. As soon as people heard that we were going through another loss, the love started flowing in.










Thank you to everyone who sent us cards, texts, emails, flowers, prayers, care packages, colouring books, food and cookies. Or who lent us shows to distract us. We appreciated every little thing and soaked up the love that came with them. We can't even really begin to express how much it all meant to us. You guys held us up, yet again.



And an especially huge thank you to my mom, who dropped everything and made the 7 hour drive to be with us during this time. It was so nice to have someone who didn't care what the house looked like or that I never put on real pants or that we ate junk food 90% of the time. You are incredible Mom and your in person support meant so much to us. Wallow week wouldn't have been the same without you.

Love is bigger than grief. That is what I keep telling myself as we navigate through these waters of grief again.

12 comments:

  1. some people say you shouldnt announce your pregnancy until you are 12 weeks along...I am more in the camp that you should announce as soon as you can to those that you trust to support you no matter the outcome. This post shows how important it is to have that support and love when you need it most.

    All my love Jennie!! I hope your future has so much happiness and so much less grief

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    1. Thank you Casey. And I agree about announcing whenever you feel comfortable. We didn't announce publicly with our first three pregnancies and that is something I wish we had done. Support during this time is so important.

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  2. What do you mean that we aren't at all upset? Of course we're upset! But not because you didn't do the blog, just for the reasons behind that. Much love

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    1. I was definitely referring to people being upset about me not blogging, but it is nice to hear that we aren't the only ones upset about this loss. Thank you for the love.

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  3. Bless your hearts. Take all the time you need!

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  4. Remember p, the depth of your grief just reflects the depth of your love.

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    1. Oh so true. Thinking of you as Christmas approaches, I know it will be hard without your son.

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    1. It really does. Thank you for all the love you showered on us these past few weeks (and always).

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  6. I am with Casey on announcing vs waiting til 12 weeks - we told friends at 6weeks only to face a MMC at almost 12w - and the support from everyone was awesome... I'm so glad you've got a great system around you!
    HUGS

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    1. I'm so glad that you have a great support system too, it really does make a huge difference.

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